Puna, November 18, 2008

Wow !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Today was a powerful day. My second day translating in the family constellation class.
The class is probably the most powerful experience I've ever had, even being a bit on the side as I'm not a full participant. The way it works is that people choose the family related problems that they want to work. The person at the beginning stands on the side, and members of the group are selected to role play the family members which are involved in the issue. Those group members start playing the way they want the stated issue. At the beginning the person that is working the issue, positions the players in the room. Their position already says something about the different relationships. Then things start happening. The role players somehow get into their role and start behaving in all different ways. The person which is working its issue starts getting identified with the role-players and behaves as if they were the real persons. People really break apart their armors and completely lose control of their emotions.
There are buckets of crying from everybody. All of us see their own problems project in other people's issues. The coach keeps helping in finding things what to say between the players which very deeply touches being worked. For instance, one woman about 60 years old always felt rejected and unloved by her mother. The mother had a disease and was not supposed to have given birth. During the session, someone played the role of her mother and for about 30 minutes she cried and was being hold by her "mother" as a little child. Another example is a young woman which lost both her parents recently. She feels that she does not have a reason to live as she was extremely attached to her parents. During the play two members of the group played her parents by laying down on the ground as if they were her parents in the grave. The young woman suddenly had the opportunity to say goodbye to her parents, something which seems that she was missing. Also their parents (the role-players) told her that they expected her to live fully even in the absence from them.
In general tons of emotions and crying and people feel extremely relieved after the session which in many cases I'm told can change their lives.
My situation is a bit touchy, as I'm translating, I'm not 100% participating, which is good and bad. It makes my life easy and I don't need to work my tought issues. But I feel I'd really would like to do it. The situation is very difficult as you really lose your armor altogether. The group is very supportive.
This session participation is really adding a lot of value to my stay. I'm quite happy to be there.
The curiousity of the day (on a more humorist light): Today I had an interesting realization.
In some countries the pedestrians have ALWAYS the right-away (Western countries). In some other countries the pedestrians do not have the right away, but cars will ultimately stop if no choice. In India things are pretty different. Pedestrians have no rights at all. They will go over you if you are on their way, and it is your duty to run away as fast as possible. But they will very make sure to horn like crazy before they kill you :-)